Recently I saw a post from an old friend and roommate on Facebook who was celebrating seven years of marriage. I reminded me that my own seven year anniversary coming up in a few weeks. (Thankfully I am remembering it).
I fondly remember and love a picture of my wife sitting on the edge of a flower planter in her wedding dress as I left to get my, just newly our, car. She told me that she was tired, so as the new, young, dutiful husband that I was I left her sitting on the planter outside the LDS temple we were married in, and went to retrieve a ride. Her uncle, our wedding photographer, snapped a picture of her. I love that picture of my new bride. However, at that point seven years ago, I didn’t understand what ‘tired’ ment when it came from her. I wish I could find that picture to share with you.
I made her go to our reception. In retrospect, it would have been better if we put the reception on a different day. Seven years later, she still is upset that we had the reception because she was so tired the entire time. Even without health problems, I hardly remember it, all she remembers is being emotionally and physically exhausted.
We just made a decision that has affected her health and energy again. (Physical energy to do stuff, not hippy aura energy) Today, I am writing this while at church, and she is at home, resting because she is again tired. Now, I am beginning to understand what ‘tired’ means from her. I know more about what she needs and how I need to respond. And it makes me appreciate every little thing that she does for me and our family.
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